Best Marriages

The key to wedded bliss isn’t over-the-top romance, but these surprisingly simple practices you can do to stay – or fall back – in love with your partner. By Holly Corbett,REDBOOK. Not trying to change each other Maybe you wish he folded his socks, or that he would chat it up with your friends without prompting. [...]

Knowing Your Partners Dreams Improves the Relationship! Dr. John Gottman, one of the top relationship experts in the world, who has studied couples for 35 years and written numerous books on the subject has discovered that there is an signifcant correlation between knowing your partners dreams, hopes and aspirations and a happy marriage.  He called [...]

Issue 2, Vol. 1 April Newletter It is no secret that when couples come to marriage therapy they all have a secret fantasy.  Here is the scenario:  You are nervous about meeting the counselor and you are also wishing it didn’t have to come to this. You might be saying to yourself; “How hard can it be to make [...]

How to ruin Valentine’s Day…and potentially a perfectly good relationship! Having been a certified Gottman Marriage counsellor for years and being married for 22 years you would think love, romance and passion should be second nature.  Well, it doesn’t and every year during Valentine’s Day I am reminded to reflect on how to keep the [...]

Kiro- TV interview with the Gottman’s is a perfect summary of why we are so excited about Gottman Couples therapy. Watch KIRO-TV’s inspiring interview with the Gottmans

Affairs Happen…  now how do I survive? There is probably not much more devastating to a relationship than an affair, no matter how big or small.  The contract two people had between them that was supposed to be unbreakable and impermeable has been broken.  The betrayed partner finds themselves wondering about who is this person I [...]

True Compatibility Doesn’t Exist, so Shrug off Little Conflicts By Jeanie Learch Davis, senior writer for WebMDhealth Thermostat settings. Dirty socks. Toothpaste caps. Our little habits make our spouses crazy. But no two people are ever truly compatible, so quit nitpicking each other, relationship experts advise. Save the battles for the big issues — and [...]

Since 1973, Dr. John Gottman has studied what he calls the “masters and disasters” of marriage. Ordinary people from the general public took part in long-term studies, and Dr. Gottman learned what makes marriages fail, what makes them succeed, and what can make marriages a source of great meaning. By examining partners’ heart rates, facial [...]

By Darren Wilk Most of the calls I receive in my office for marriage help come from women who are tired of doing all the work in their marriage. They have asked their husbands, over and over again, to get into gear and take more responsibility for the relationship. The response they get is, “Why? [...]

The following Article Explains the principle of Aikido: Yield to win. In the Japanese Martial art Aikido, the idea is that direct opposition, two forces opposed, is a BIG mistake. We must yield to win.  The truth for marriage is this: YOU CAN’T  BE INFLUENTIAL UNLESS YOU ACCEPT INFLUENCE. The article is written about business [...]

by Heather Bowden Intimate Violence Most violent crimes happen between people who are known to each other. This is true of all forms of assault, including sexual assault and rape. British Columbia has the highest reported incidences of intimate violence in all of Canada. It is estimated that only 1-10% of all sexual assaults are [...]

The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide for Building Better Connections with Family, Friends, and Lovers by John Gottman with Joan DeClaire (Book summarized by Lynne Namka, Ed.D. ©2002) Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, are the world’s foremost researchers in understanding relationships. They invite couples to come into their research [...]