Select the response that best describes the way you tend to be in your relationships:
1.
In your relationship:
I assume my partner knows I love them without having to say it
I feel it is important to say “I love you”
2.
In your relationship:
I feel it easy and necessary to express my feelings
I sometimes have a hard time expressing my feelings
3.
When making decisions,
I let my heart lead the way
I try to choose the logical answer
4.
When communicating with my partner it is more important:
to be clear and concise and get to the point
to take my time in explaining things so they will understand me
5.
If there is a chance I might hurt my partner’s feelings by telling the truth, I will
keep it to myself or say it in a nicer way that won’t hurt them
say it like it is
6.
When my partner gives me a birthday card, I like one that is:
creative and imaginative
sweet and romantic
7.
When I do things with my partner I prefer to:
have things planned out
be spontaneous
8.
When my partner and I go on a vacation I would like to:
wait until we get there and then decide what to do
have a plan in mind about our activities
9.
In my relationship it is more important that:
we have a strong sense of what is right and wrong
we have fun and excitement
10.
When my partner and I go out to a function,
I don’t worry too much if we are late
I need to be on time
11.
When seeking a partner it was more important
to see if they are trustworthy and honest
see if we have common interests to share in
12.
In my relationship it is more important for me to be:
charming and impulsive
loyal, prepared and dependable
13.
When choosing a spouse I believe it is more important to choose
someone who will make me think
someone who is fun to be around
14.
When it comes to discussing important issues with my partner I like to think that I am quite:
Open minded
Knowledgeable
15.
When putting together something mechanical for my spouse,
I am curious to know how it works
I could care less how it works, just as long as it does
16.
When trying to fix a problem in my relationship I would probably:
just try and fix it by trial and error
buy a book and read up on the topic
17.
In a new relationship I would be more likely to:
take some time and evaluate the person
jump right in and have fun
18.
When I communicate with my spouse I tend to act:
more informal and playful
more formal and instructive
19.
I would prefer that the person I choose to spend the rest of my life with would be:
a sensible spouse
a clever and smart companion
20.
In my relationships it is important for me to:
be seen as calm, cool, and collected
be faithful, stable and organized
21.
When it comes to problems in relationships, I like to look for:
solutions that we have used before successfully
new ways to resolve our issues
22.
When thinking about my relationship I often think about:
what we will do in the future
what we are doing in the present
23.
When it comes to special times such as holidays,
I like to plan parties and events around those occasions
don’t really care if we do that much
24.
When my partner wants me to do something I appreciate
them thinking about it before they ask me
them being clear and specific
25.
In my relationship, I prefer to be valued for:
my contributions and uniqueness
my energy and excitement
26.
When I get into an argument with my spouse, it is more important to
confront the issues at hand
make things right
27.
When making a big purchase like buying a car I tend to base my decision on
my feelings and trust of the seller
the appearance and cool options
28.
In my relationship, I value:
finding ways to energizing my relationship
integrity and unity
29.
If I had my choice of an activity to do with my partner I would choose
a nice walk in nature
white water rafting
30.
If my partner was in a bad mood, I would try to make them feel better by:
taking them out for a fun evening or
talking to them about what’s wrong
31.
When my partner and I go over to a close friends place I am more likely to greet them with
a verbal greeting or handshake
a hug
32.
In my relationship, I demonstrate love by
being affectionate and romantic
the practical things I do for my loved ones
33.
In my relationship it is more important for me to:
strive for a sense of security and trust
have frequent and deep conversations
34.
In my relationship it is more important for me to be:
motivating and encouraging
helpful and trustworthy
35.
In my romantic relationship, I looked for
a dependable mate
a soul mate
36.
In my romantic relationship it is more important
to make my partner happy
be safe and secure
